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I was lucky to spend yesterday with my immediate family in the City. We had a blast. Charlie was lucky enough to participate in everything we did too! For today’s post, here is my Sunday, Mother’s Day in mostly photos:
Pink breakfast of champions
Cleaning and Trader Joes…the necessary but not so fun stuff to do on Sundays
Charlie soooo happy to see his Grandma
A flower show
Time in the park….someone wants a hot dog too
A walk around the lake
Early dinner at “Gracias Madre,” a gourmet vegan Mexican restaurant
And then some time on the couch before the best part of the day……
Jared came back from Cabo! He’s sooo tan (and so tired!). We took a walk around the neighborhood and up to the burger shop so he could eat dinner, chatted about his trip….and then it was late so the day came to an end.
– What did you do with your mom for mother’s day?
– Any vegan restaurants near you that you go to (even if you’re not vegan)?
– How many people in your immediate family?
– Are there free concerts anywhere near you? (The ones in the park are every Sunday and they’re fun to go to)
Who smiles for their mug shots?? Me, of course.
I spent Sunday in jail It was a blast.
Haha. We were on a private tour of Alcatraz! Jared’s parents were visiting and we had a fun-filled, jam-packed San Francisco wknd! I’m still exhausted and recovering from it, hence why I haven’t blogged in a few days.
Before I get to the tour of Alacatraz (umm, we went in the Alcatraz morgue- gross!!), I’ll back up a litte.
On Saturday, we went to a farmer’s market, drove across the bridge to Marin, had lunch, walked around, hung out in a few neighborhoods, had dinner in North Beach, went for drinks at the spot Jared and I met, etc. We lucked out on a beautiful weather weekend (sorry east coasters, but it was in the high 60s here!).
Sunday started with a muffin (from the Farmer’s Market on Saturday), green smoothie (they’re back in my life!!) and several cups of coffee. Such a tasty breakfast.
my new favorite farmer’s market stand but i should probably stick to the veggies
In the morning, we visited our wedding venue (it was beautiful and made us both so much more excited about the day!) and then drove over the bridge to a winery that was having an event for my dog toy charity!
We sipped wine and hung out.
collect lots of toys, please
wine at noon….YES
Arrived at Pier 39 around 1pm for lunch and hanging out with the seals.
and coffee, of course
Around 3:30, we met my parents for our Alcatraz tour! My dad is a big history buff and started volunteering at Alcatraz a few times a month. He loves showing people around. I’ve been to Alcatraz more times than I can count, but this was the first time I’ve been there since he started volunteering. He gave us a private behind-the-scenes tour! It was seriously awesome.
To get to the Rock, you have to take a 25 minute Ferry ride. The Ferry has beautiful views of the City and is a fun way to hang out on the Bay.
my mom and sis on the boat
Because my dad volunteers, he picked up keys to pretty much everywhere and took all all around on a behind-the-scenes tour.
inside the cell block
Among the highlights: we went inside the morgue (it was gross and creeped me out!), toured the hospital (also creepy…and old xray and surgery tables were still there), went upstairs in the cellblock and got to see the bullet holes from the big day when the prisoners overtook the island for a brief while…
so tiny and depressing, right? Enough to make you not want to do anythign to make you go to jail!
And the best part– we went up into the lighthouse!
This was very special because almost no one is allowed to do this.
see how tall? not good for fear of heights
First, we walked up hundreds of steps….
Stairs. Lots and lots and lots of stairs!
Until we reached the top.
I don’t like heights very much, so I was totally scared. The view, however was absolutely beautiful and we were there right at sunset.
A lot of Alcatraz is falling apart and they don’t keep it up very well so I was totally afraid that we were all going to fall off the lighthouse.
Since I don’t like heights, I was hanging on to the railing outside at the top….and the Park Ranger who was with us goes, “Whatever you do, DO NOT hold the railing!”
That really freaked me out because there was nothing else to hang onto! It was windy. haha.
ahhh, jared is holding onto the railing!! freaked out we were all going to be blown off the top byt he wind
I was happy when we got to go back down, but it was still an incredible experience.
Afterwards, we toured the grounds and went into the outside field area. Fun trivia fact…Alcatraz is the only jail to have only hot water…they didn’t want the prioners to get used to cold water (and try to swim ashore).
We went into Al Capone’s cell. I’m sitting on the little chair he must have sat on every single day he was there!
Alcatraz is pretty depressing and sad to me…..but I love history and it’s interesting to visit.
After we got back from the boat, we all went over to Boudin for dinner. I ordered shrimp. YUM. And we shared a few sourdough apps.
And then….Jared, his parents, and I ended the day with the ultimate San Francisco indulgence….a Ghiradelli Sundae!
yummmmmm. oh happy day.
I face planted into bed only a short time later.
It’s so fun to have visitors in town and play tour guide! Only bummer about the weekend is that we kept Charlie at my parents’ so no puppy time this wknd. Sorry, Charlie.
– Have you ever been to SF? What sites did you visit?
— Where do you always take people who visit you?
– Are you afraid of heights? What are you afraid of?
– Are you a history buff? Do you like going to see historical sites or museums?
This weekend has been yet another reminder that you really never know what the day will bring. I expected to be posting today about how I dropped off the dog toys at the shelters and how I spent the weekend enjoying our glorious weather…but no, life had other things in mind.
Yesterday morning when Jared and I had just gotten to the park for a morning dog walk, we got a call that there was a death in Jared’s family. At his request, I’ll keep the details private.
All I’ll say is that no matter how old someone is and even though death is an inevitable part of life, it’s still tough and hard and unexpected.
We spent the day together processing it, talking to family and making travel plans.
We went to the beach at sunset.
It was an absolutely beautiful night.
And said some prayers.
Then we drank a rootbeer float because it’s what they did together often.
And now we are off to Florida for a very short 48 hours from takeoff till landing back in SF.
So just saying, I prob won’t post again until Tuesday night. But enjoy life, make the most of it and go see sunsets as much as possible!
Talk to you soon!
-Have you ever had to fly across country suddenly for a funeral? the airlines are no help in cutting costs, sheesh.
Rootbeer float or milkshake?
We celebrated the second night of Hannukah at my parents’ house last night. I don’t know about you, but I am Holiday-partied-out! Already. And the month is only a third over. Gulp.
I had five parties over the weekend and another one tonight. All fun, of course…but I am craving some pjs and couch time. Anyone else?
Anyway- what’s Hannukah without potato pancakes? I thought I’d share my mom’s tried and true recipe.
– 4 medium potatoes, peeled
– 2 eggs
– 1/3 cup flour
– 1 tsp baking powder
– 3/4 tsp salt
– oil for fying
Grate potato and onion in a bowl (ummm food processors come in handy here). Add remaining ingredients except oil. Pour oil about 1/8 inch deep in large skillet. Brown well on both sides. Drain on paper towels.
Eat with applesauce…lots and lots of apple sauce. Preferably homemade from my mom.
Then be like us and…..have a cookie decorating contest with oodles of blue frosting and sprinkles.
My cookies came in last (Jared was the judge because he “forgot” to wait and ate all of his before the judging started..ha!). My sis and her bf had great ones…maybe they’ll open a bakery someday and I can come lick the bowls for them
Truthfully, Hannukah’s not a holiday I care much about, but I like tradition and am glad I celebrated at least one day of it this year. I’m sure that’ll change if/when I have kids and I’ll get more into it.
But I’m loving the lights everywhere and all the decorations. I wanted to pose in front of the big huge pretty union square Christmas tree this weekend (we were downtown looking at wedding venues…I think we’re nixing the destination wedding idea, but that’s another story…) but there were so many people taking photos, I settled for the less crowded menorah instead.
–Have you ever eaten a latke? I found out on Sat that a lot of my friends didn’t even know what they are!
–Are you good at decorating cookies or being creative like that? Who is the best at it in your family?
Whew. I am finally coming up for air. Since Jared’s surgery on Wednesday, the last week has just been a blur. I knew it was going to be difficult and exhausting. and it was. It took me a while to get the hang of everything. I had to take a few day break from blogging, so am just now reading all your comments– thanks for all your support through everything! I think I need another day or two to fully get back on track, but here’s a quick catch-up post on what’s been going on….
1) Surgery Update….
I should have posted a photo of Jared in his sling and pjs looking uncomfortable and in pain….but I thought that was just plain mean. Plus, I was too busy making food or helping him to even think about taking a photo until now (he’s likely happy about that).
Instead I’ll post a photo of the exact same breakfast I have made for Jared every day for the past 5 days. I think I’ll have to change it up tomorrow
He’s doing well. The surgery was painful but the meds have helped. It’s mostly just that he doesn’t feel well, it’s uncomfortable to do anything, it’s tough to sleep, the meds make him feel weird, and everything is just plain hard one-handed…aka, opening a box of crackers or trying to shower is just hard. The sling doesn’t give quite enough support right now, so he’s in pain if he’s up and around too much. But it’ll get easier, slowly but surely.
On Saturday, he was very cooped up and we needed to go grab something at his office, so we got in the car for what we thought would be a 20 minute errand….well they were filming a car comercial on the four streets surrounding his office so by the time we found parking (streets were closed, traffic was insane), made it to the office, waited to get out of the office because we weren’t alowed on the sidewalk, and I figured out a way to pick him up in the car (because he just couldn’t walk any further)…..it turned into 2 hours and he was in ridiculous pain. UGH.
For me, it’s been a little like what I imagine it’s like to be a working mom. There’s so much taking care of him stuff to do from the minute I wake up till I leave for work and then from the minute I get home until when we go to sleep. That’s probably exaggerating, but there’s just way more than usual. It’s getting easier and I’m sure this is 1000 times easier than what moms go through….but I give you guys so much credit. I don’t think I can be a working mom (I can work, just don’t think I’ll be able to handle full-time out of the house, I’m not good enough at balance). I think we’ve finally gotten a routine down and he’s slowly getting better so it’s easier, but it’s been absolutely exhausting.
Okay, what else….
2) This weekend, I was a running buddy at the Girls On The Run 5k!
My sisters’ friends are coaches and so we signed up to run with their girls. On my cuteness!! They were adorable and sooo excited to run. What a great program.
However, Saturday was smack in the middle of the biggest rainstorm we’ve had all year. Pouring cats and dogs. Winds blowing so hard the trees were sideways. It was insane. Yes, we still went. But it was a wet, cold mess.
start of the race madness
3) Wedding stuff!
A few friends took me out to celebrate Friday night! We just grabbed a glass of wine at a wine bar I’ve been bugging them to try. It was really fun. I was exhausted from the week, but it was so fun to celebrate.
this is a photo from another night….but the wine looked the same
This past week has been full of “should we do it here? or here? what about this?” wedding type planning and brainstorming. We both agree that we want something small and “easy” but we’re still figuring out just what we mean by that. Right now, we’re thinking either doing a destination wedding at a beach resort in the carribbean (sunshine, beach, and only our closest friends and fam) or throwing something in SF at a cool venue and focusing on the fun-party aspect of it. I think we’re leaning toward the beach and then doing something simple here to celebrate when we get back….but keep ya posted. I change my mind everyday, ha.
4) And other stuff…
Still no camera so just using my iPhone….makes blogging a little tougher. blah.
It’s almost my one year blogiversary and I have some thoughts about it and some how to change it up type thoughts…still mulling over things, but will prob discuss later!
It’s officially Holiday Party time! I have 6 holiday parties Friday through Sunday. Tis the season!
I did almost all of my shopping online yesterday. This is the first year that I’ve pretty much avoided the mall completely. All I have left to get is a massage gift certificate for my sis and some rain boots for my mom (I can write this here because this is what they both asked for and picked out so it won’t be a surprise anyways).
I’m still doing the dog toy collection! I got a little sidetracked this past week and a half, but am back full force collecting those toys! Thanks to everyone who sent toys!! keep sending them! Will do an update next week.
Okay, now I better start working…
– How much of your shopping are you doing online this year?
– Have you been to a destination wedding? What were the bad parts…things I should think about before deciding?
– How many holiday parties do you have planned this weekend? Are you hosting any this year? I’m not…going to do a party in Jan instead to celebrate the ironman, engagement, etc.
Hola! Okay, okay, first things first….I teased you with good news yesterday, so I might as well just come out and tell you….though I bet half of you already guessed….
JARED PROPOSED ON SATURDAY NIGHT!!!!!! yahoo!
I was surprised and thrilled and stuck on cloud nine and everything else. We had a date night planned (i thought we were going ice skating….), but anyways to make a long story short, we rode a cable car, then went back to the hotel where we met and got a drink (we first met at a fundraising event at the Fairmont Hotel in SF), then he took me to the park across the street and got down on one knee, and then to continue my surprise, my family was waiting across at this great lounge with views of the city and we met them to celebrate with cocktails and dancing. So excited and so happy.
We re-enacted it for my dad later that night so he could take pics….
And nope, no clue when or where we’re getting married (since that’s always the first questions… , but I’m sure I’ll keep you posted eventually.
Aaannnddd, on to the next thing. I didn’t feel like doing a What I Ate Wednesday post this week. I took some photos of my food on Tuesday, but frankly…it just wasn’t very interesting one bit.
Instead, I think it’s time for a survey! I saw this one on a few blogs a long while back….15 Questions:
Favorite ice cream flavor? That’s a toughie. Truth is, I’m actually a little boring, but I really can’t ever go wrong with just plain chocolate or strawberry. Never gets old for me. Cookies and cream is a good third though.
Favorite dessert? Ice cream probably. Or a brownie sundae. My mouth is watering just thinking about them!
Favorite meal? Depends on my mood….but I would say barbecued chicken, corn on the cob, and a slice of watermelon hits the spot any day (sigh, it’s a long time ‘till summer!)
What did you major in? I majored in Political Communications, which is a cross between poli sci and journalism (a lot of people in my major became press secretaries to members of congress). I worked in politics for a few years after college.
Who is your best friend? My sister, 100%. And Jared, of course.
Do you have any siblings? Yep, I have a fabulous younger sister who is the best sibling anyone could ask for.
my sis in a photo from when we went to vegas last year…we had fun at the dessert buffet
Single or taken? Taken!! Officially so and sporting a shiny ring as of last weekend.
Favorite TV shows? Always changing, but at the moment: Good Wife, How I Met Your Mother, Long Island Medium, Seinfeld, and Monk. I don’t have much patience for tv lately so just watch whatever is on the dvr
Where have you traveled? Parts of Europe, lots of South America, not enough of the US (I’m up to 20 states), Tahiti (best vacation ever), Caribbean, Israel, Canada, Mexico, etc. So many more places on my list….but not enough money or time right now.
Do you work out? Of course! But not enough lately…I still haven’t been able to find a consistent routine that gets results. It’s really been bothering me. But my go-to exercise is: Treadmill, yoga, swimming, elliptical, hiking, etc.
Currently reading? Just finished Gone Girl. Read it! Trying to find a new book…
was a perfect vacation read
Pets? Charlie, my pup….but I’m sure anyone who has read this blog for even a second already knows that.
Hobbies? Blogging. Hiking. Baking. My dog toy collection drive. Reading (books and blogs). Ummmm, what else…I don’t feel like I’ve had much time lately for anything but friends and work and family, but I need a new hobby…probably in the workout realm (kickboxing? Pilates? Hmmm)
Mac or PC? I thought I was a Mac girl, but I just bought a new laptop PC and am LOVING it, so maybe I switched back.
Staples in your kitchen? Almond Milk, bananas, eggs, frozen veggies, and rice crackers are ALWAYS there.
my typical shopping cart at Trader Joes
Past jobs? In no particular order….Political fundraiser, lobbyist, scheduler for an elected official, “scooper” at ben and jerry’s, retail person at pottery barn (yuck, hated this job), helped start a fab nonprofit, camp counselor (best job ever), and Kindergarten/Third Grade teacher.
And that’s it! My 16 questions and 16 answers!
Okay sooo…I love taking surveys and reading people’s answers.
– Answer one of the questions above! What are your hobbies, favorite dessert, staples in your kitchen, etc?!
– For those who are married, were you surprised when you were proposed to or did you sort of already know how and when he was doing it?
Happy belated Thanksgiving! We got back from Arizona late Wednesday night (the airport was surprisingly empty, so unexpected), spent Thursday morning watching the parade, unpacking, quick workout at the gym, and cooking before going to my parents’ house in the early afternoon.
Thanksgiving was full of family, food, several dog walks (nice weather here), board games, and remembering what I’m grateful for..but it also included an unexpectedly sick stomach flu Jared who got hit with something 30 minutes after we got to my parents’ house before he even ate anything and spent the whole night in bed under a dozen blankets. Ugh.
Anyway- Since it’s 23 PAWS today, I’ll show you Thanksgiving from Charlie’s perspective…
thanksgiving by charlie:
“The day started with a long nap
At my grandparent’s house, I spent a few hours sitting on the front lawn waiting for guests to arrive
My dog cousin, Eddie, came to Thanksgiving too and I shared my toys.
We all went for a long dog walk.
The house smelled amazing though, so I hung out near the table even before everyone came to sit down…
I was so excited for the food
It was thanksgiving California style, so we had plenty of veggies too and mommy was happy.
I stated near her chair for most of dinner because her plate smelled so good
And then after another dog walk, I fell into a food coma while everyone played board games…
Okay….Thanksgiving is a holiday I’m guessing all dogs love- filled with people and food (though most food’s prob not dog friendly)…
In other Thanksgiving/23PAWS-related news, yesterday I collected Dog Toys for the A Toy For Every Pup drive!!
How cute are they?!
For anyone new, A Toy For Every Pup is my dog toy drive to benefit pups in shelters. Everyone who has a dog (and even those who don’t), know the love between a dog and their favorite toy- toys bring comfort, support, and love to dogs recovering from neglect/abuse and awaiting their forever home. We’re hoping to collect 250 toys by December 24th.
The support has been amazing- we’re not close to our goal yet though- and I’d LOVE for you to be part of the drive and join the FB page or purchase a $5 toy on our Amazon Wishlist. It’s all sure to make some shelter dogs’ tails wag Email me if you have questions!
Enjoy your Thanksgiving weekend!!
-How’d your dog handle Thanksgiving?
-Ever been sick on Thanksgiving?
-Do you watch the Macy’s Parade every year?
- Plans today?
Hey! A few weeks ag, LuvWhatYouDo (love her blog!) tagged me for an All About Me post and I’ve been meaning to do it ever since! I’m feeling in a “tell you about my personal life” mood as well, so decided it was finally time.
I still struggle with the whole, how much to tell about myself on the blog thing, but I’m trying to open up more…cause really, I like reading the blogs that do, so here goes!
1) I got Charlie after a horrendous breakup (my fiance broke up with me 6 weeks before our wedding) and I needed something new in my life (plus I had been wanting a pup forever). When I went to pick him at the breeder’s, he jumped right out of the bed with all his brothers and sisters and started nuzzling my leg…he totally picked me! He was such a happy, loving pup and was just what I needed.
the day i brought him home
2) Since I’m on the topic, cancelling a wedding that close to the big day really sucks. I gave my dress to goodwill, in case you were wondering. If you ever need advice, def ping me. The good part was that literally 3 days after we broke up, I felt like the luckiest girl in the world- I was so thrilled not to have to marry him! I struggle with wanting to write more about this on the blog because it was an interesting and totally life-changing experience…..and wanting to just leave the past in the past.
3) I went through 2 years where I put all my stress and control into obsessing over my eating habits and I lost 20 pounds. I was too thin and everyone thought so, except me. My doctor even said my heart had slowed down. It was really hard– I finally felt like I “won” at the weight thing, and everyone was making me change. But lo and behold, as soon as I got out of the bad relationship, my issues diminished. Well…sort of diminished, I gained too much weight back so now I struggle with balance.
4) My grandma died suddenly when I was 9 and my grandpa died only a year later. It was tough to learn about death at a young age and I still really wish they could be here to share things with. I’ve been thinking about them lately, so included this in the post.
Okay, the last few things have been sad, so here’s some happier ones….
5) I ran my first half marathon on a whim….my friend Adam and I signed up less than a week before the race. he finished in like an hour and a half…I ended up hurting my knee at like mile 8 and walking the rest of the way. Ugh. I attempted again two years later and walked most of that too….until i finally ran the whole thing last fall. It felt great to finally finish!
sweaty after my ran-the-whole-way half
6) I’ve met 3 presidents– Carter, Clinton (3 times), and Obama (and Gore too, but that doesn’t count).
7) Thanksgiving and 4th of July are my favorite holidays. New Years is one of my least favorites– everyone always has such high expectations, it’s usually freezing cold, and it’s always so insane to find a cab that no matter what, you end up spending at least an hour walking home, late night, in the cold, and in uncomfortable heels. Ahhhh, I’m a debbie downer today. I am, though, excited for Thanksgiving– football, cozy time with family, and good food!
Me last winter
8) I learned to scuba dive in Honduras a few years ago and went on 10 diving trips in two weeks….then I went diving last December in Hawaii, freaked out mid-dive, pressed the wrong button, started floating up against my will, TOTALLY freaked out, and popped up at the top. It was awful and funny at the same time. I totally thought my lungs were goign to explode from popping up so fast, but turns out we were only down 20 feet. Can you tell I get anxious sometimes, haha!
Oops, that was 8 instead of 7 things!
Okay, who wants to be tagged? How about…..
Apples & Arteries
In Her Chucks
Jessie Loves to Run
And tell me…..
If you have a dog, did they pick you too?
Favorite holidays? Scuba Dive?
Relate with any of the things I posted?
Tell me something interesting about you! I love reading it…
I live about 30 minutes from my parents’ house and there’s something so nice and relaxing about spending an evening there.
The yard is pretty and I can hang out outside
Much, much better views that the dirty, cement-laden city.
And of course, a HUGE perk is that if I go for dinner, they usually do all the cooking and I can just enjoy it!
It was nice enough to sit outside:
My parents are pretty healthy eaters so I *usually* like what they’re making. The other night, they barbequed halibut and we ate it with a green salad and steamed cauliflower. It was nice to be spoiled and not have to cook.
It’s so nice to get out of the city sometimes! It’s also really nice to have someone cook for you. So, if you’re reading, thanks mom and dad
– How often do you sit outside to eat?
— Do you live near your parents? How often do you go for dinner (if that’s an option)?
I talk a lot about my llllloooonng commute to the office. It’s an hour+ each way- blah. The one thing that makes it more bearable though is that I started listening to books on
tape cd. The radio and my ipod were getting really monotonous, but the books keep me engrossed.
Recently, I listened to Katie Couric’s The Best Advice I Ever Got: Lessons from Extraordinary Lives. It was sooo good that when it ended, I started over right from the beginning and listened to it twice all the way through.
For the book, Katie interviewed a ton of people– everyone from Mario Batali to Suze Orman, Bill Clinton, and Chelsea Handler. Through the stories of their lives and their journey to success, they all gave the very best advice they were given. And their advice was inspiring!
I think the most interesting thing I took away from it was that every single person interviewed was told at some point in their life that they would fail. They made mistakes and people told them no. But they ALL believed in themselves and their goals and pushed their way through. We all go through those times in our lives and knowing that the road is not easy, but hard work really does come through is such a wonderful lesson!
I liked all their advice so much, that I thought I would share some of it with you. It all sounds a lot better in the context of the story in the book than it does summarized in my post, so
read listen to it if you can.
The Best Advice:
- My favorite story was from Kathryn Socket, who wrote the Help. Don’t Give Up. She received 61 REJECTIONS for the Help before it was finally published. She could easily have given up after 15. Or 30. Or even 60. But she didn’t. And because of that, she succeeded.
- There is no success without failure…..and usually a lot of it. So try. Fail. Try again. Fail better.
- Follow your bliss.
- Listen. Really, really listen.
- Always be yourself. There will never be anyone you can be better than that.
- Always say yes. To social invites, trips, new experiences. Saying yes opens you up to opportunities that you never would have expected.
- Dare to be happy. Let yourself be happy.
- Be LUCKY. Luck is a choice. Choose to think of yourself as more luck will follow.
- Find your magic. Figure out what makes you great. And trust me, there’s something in each of us.
My mom with Charlie at my sister's apartment.
The best advice I ever got was from my mom. I tend to be overly dramatic pretty often and get into pessimistic, glass-half-empty moods. One day when I was having “one of those days” when everything seemed to go wrong, I called my mom to commiserate about how terrible “everything” was.
She said to me, “Rebecca, some days are just like that.”
And just like that, I snapped out of it. ‘Cause you know what? She was right. Some days things don’t always go perfectly. Some days are harder than others. But that doesn’t mean that ALL days are like that. Or that my LIFE is like that. It’s just this day. And tomorrow will be better.
It still sticks with me whenever I get in those moods. I know that advice won’t resonate with everyone, but it’s what helps me.
I loved hearing everyone’s stories and it was so inspiring. I don’t think you have to be a celebrity to have good advice like that– I think we all are full of great advice.
So you tell me,
–What’s the best advice you’ve ever got?
–Who do you count on to give you good advice?